I believe that I am the sum of the people I hang out with.
I believe that I am on a constant journey of growth and that I will actively pursue learning until the day I am unable! This doesn’t stop because I have attained a degree or passed a test.
I believe that to make big change in our world we often have to do really uncomfortable stuff. That walking through fear is required!
I believe not everyone will like me, agree with me or understand me.
Most importantly I believe that I can’t let the people in the “cheap seats” with the small dreams have an influence on my BIG life.
I believe that a mediocre life is not an option!
Finding beliefs that were authentic to who I am was not easy, in fact it was painful and confusing, none of this was taught to me as a child.
My parents taught what they knew. They completed the amount of education needed for the career they wanted. A police officer and teacher (ironic I guess LOL!) and then they did that. They earned a salary, health insurance and a vacation a year. It was safe and consistent for the most part. I grew up in simple but nice homes, went to public schools in nice neighborhoods, full of middle class families just like mine. I was encouraged to get a degree and find my career just as my parents had done. Everyone I knew was on the same path, from similar homes with similar beliefs…why would I question it? Emotionally I struggled as a kid, I can now attribute a lot of my insecurities and unhappiness as a child to the fact I was filled with fear and shame; never able to “fit in the box” the way I felt others wanted me to.
I fear this lifestyle, breeds mediocrity, and is the story for much of our population. When in fact we are NOT created to be mediocre, we were made for much much more!
We were not made to jump through hoops! The finish line is NOT the college degree. The finish line is NOT the 9-5 job. What if I told you that there is NO finish line! What if everyday you woke up and your only goal was to be the best version of yourself and serve the greater good! To find success and happiness simultaneously! To never stop learning or growing! Even better, what if we raised our kids this way?!
What if at 18 our kids knew all the things we are just now realizing is the true definition of success? What if instead of sitting in desks to learn 1 version of 1 systems truth, our kids knew how to seek out truth. What if our kids knew THEY were the sum of the 5 people they hung out with and that their life was more important then someone’s opinion of them!?! Can you imagine the amount of POWERFUL global change that could be had if we raise up humans that actually knew their worth. Truly believed they had the ability to be world changers! Could independently seek answers to hard question! Can you believe that by simply eliminating fear and shame our country could dramatically change? I DO!!!
I’m not talking some hippie, unrealistic philosophy! I’m talking about literally allowing our kids to be free thinkers, to be independent learners, to be experts in emotional intelligence! What if we taught our kids to dream of more then jumping through hoops and checking the box. Instead we create environments and opporutunites to step into the life they were created for without fear and shame!
Listen I get it!
I get that it’s confusing and scary. I don’t have all the answers or consider myself an expert in anyway. I’m a mom that wants better for my kids. By better I mean more self aware, more confident, more focused on adding value to their lives and this planet. I’m a human that wants to raise my kids in a world not controlled by fear and shame! If we actually want change we are going to have to start doing the hard things instead of continuing to do what we’ve always done!